Sunday, June 30, 2013

Character Assassination

“That girl is not good for you. She is a flirt who goes around with guys. She is a gold digger.”
“That boy is a flirt. He is not a decent guy. He is not a good match for you.”
How many of us and how many times have we heard this stuff from different people around us? They can be friends, neighbors and many a time, the good old relatives. I wonder as to how they conclude on any such view he/she has about a person. And soon it becomes a judgment for them, i.e. framed up in their head about the person (judged).
I have heard a lot of this kind through my life. I am amazed and at the same time, surprised when people come up to me with these kinds of views about people around me. And at times even about my friends whom I have a good relation with. I do hardly agree to such perceived notion of the people, who convert their views to judgments and live with it. They don’t mind to share the views with their peers (include every other person they meet), also convince them to believe the same. I am fine if they have their own views or rather share it with me, but when it goes around or is passed on to others, I hate it to the core b’coz that’s a bad practice. This at times creates a pre-conceived notion about a person, and people may deter from knowing the person face to face.
Bloody S***!
I would like to ask them, who are they to have their views seen as a judgment, for others and think the others to believe it to be true. No matter they have their own ways to prove the same. They are no leaders/authority passing out any Character Certificate to individuals. Let everyone have their own views regarding any individual, as no two persons can have a single outlook to any individual unless they are driven by one single thought (shared).
I always believed that one should know the person to know the person, rather know the person without knowing the person. I deter to take such views regarding any person. They might see the glass half empty, and I see it half full. Both might be on same page however I am not going to buy their thought and have the same perceived notion regarding the person. Am lucky, am not driven by others thoughts. Let me decide on my own experience.

Sunday, November 04, 2012

A Random thought


No strange stuff in here. However though to jot down my thoughts in here to just have them settled rather run wild in my head. Actually thinking, how on earth people just go on blogging about many a stuff or various thoughts they have in their heads. It’s simply strange at time or something is really wrong with my head. Yep, it’s a high time I have never written up since my last blog.

Strange and true coz I needed to figure out as to how it should come up. Many times I tried to figure it out giving various shapes and ways but however it never reached a satisfactory level. I did persuade my head to indulge in more of the thought processing activities that eventually bore no fruit in the end. Lot of wayward thinking I should say.

I never had a belief that blogging would be a tough job on me, and the start though on a good note, the steam was soon out. Might be, that I was looking for more substance like the typical authors who pen bestselling books. However the truth was the blog is one’s own place to present your thoughts with.
Hey, wait up…am going the typical mature thinking like adult. And yes, that’s the matter of concern here.

To be continued……!!! Network lost..!! :-P

Sunday, July 10, 2011

A trip, A meeting ….!!!



It was just another day in my life when I wasn’t expecting anything special to happen....!! Well, I never was. We had planned up a trip to a hill station with family and a close friend. Excited as such, yeah a little bit as I rarely am interested in such trips. But this was to be a good one, which I knew later....!!



The seats were set and the trip was to start into the midnight as the bus started off its journey. We were booked at the later end of the bus, yeah the bumpy ride was free which was not told to us while booking the tickets. Their smile should have given us the indication. We were in for some sound advising for the same, thanks to the older lots. They never are a satisfied lot.



Finally with all the bumps and advising we settled for the ride as we chose to have it. Oldies took the seats and we young were on the sleepers at the end....jumping ourselves at each bump the bus rode upon. It was joy as we chatted upon pulling each other passing out time. She was there with us too, enjoying the moment, she had found a place beside me.


I had met her once, before that meeting if I remember during some function at some place. Who would dream that there was more in store.



Well, I had struck a conversation with her at the function but it ended there. Here she was again and I was just being myself chatting away with her and pulling her at the same time. She did hate it at times and reacted equally, also it was fun for both of us. It was past midnight and we were to reach by morning. The chats were to continue and the reactions too.



She did speak a little...and reacted more (in other words, extraordinarily more..!!!). Even when I sang songs (which I did have as a pass time act), it was reacted upon and were responded upright with rejections. I was adamant on continuing and she too was, on showing up her rejections. She wasn’t sleeping, she was just there, her head leaning on my shoulders.....!!!!! Yes, I had obliged to her request, a flirt too, I am..!!



We had reached the place the next morning 6 am. Alas so soon..? I do hope that I did catch some sleep during the journey, and she too. Next was to reach the place to stay and get ourselves fresh. It was the place already suggested by another of our family friends. If I still remember, surrounded by a field at one side, a tar road running extended on one of its side which vanishes into the high mountain at the back. It was a splendid location all together.



Next on agenda was sightseeing at the various places around Abu, as promised by the driver, hired by us to take us around. And it started soon, in a rush to cover the maximum of places in and around Abu. We all were geared up, which never would last long, which I had guessed right. It started off visiting some of religious place, all that I did like about the place though was the scenic beauty which I did get to see at various places. The complains still flowed, none reached our ears.



Lunch was through. The evening went around window shopping and best of it was the boating at Nakki Lake. Late evening we were on our way back, dining out. Munching at the dosas, pizzas, and utthappams etc. She did not eat much, and she too had a piece of advice (read scolding) from her dad. I did enjoy that very much. I had seen that we could get drinks at the place, and I did get a beer bottle to share with my brother. Late in the nite, the beer did get empty and no one knew about that episode. He.....he....!!!



The next morning was a trip to another temple. Ohh..!! Please, is there no other place on this earth to go. As usual the elderly lots were the ones to guide and also confuse the driver who rather chose to stay silent and go as per the advice. It was a long climb over the hill, a lot number of steps and a lot zig zag way to climb. As we all reached above, stopping at intervals, it was really a wonderful place. High up there one could see the whole of this place. Splendid.



We then moved to the sunset point, we were eager to reach the top as it was time for the sun to set. High up the place I luckily got a place beside her, lucky by chance. A little chat here, a tussle there, and a moment spent in company, were there through the trip. I am obliged with such times. The view was great, and on way down, I and my brother had another of the tea session. It was time soon to retire to our beds by the night. So early, I would say.



Much of the time we had spent seeing around and then it was time for some real shopping. We were lodged at a place in the centre of the market at noon. The ones, who decided to shop, including her were the team to venture out next. The worst part I did have to bear, was roaming around just looking at the shops and the stuffs. The tussle with her was on, as I did outright reject any of her adamant selections (desire) made to her mother. And best of it, her mother did take my side. The reactions were evident. Evening tea was at Cafe Coffee Day, yeah, we did find one there.



Soon, it was time for our return journey. The little fights, the pulling of legs, the small conversations, surely it was interesting. We did bet to have a seat beside each other, and I lost happily. Unpleasant to lose the bet, I was. But, rather I expected it to change. The trip back seem to be a very short one, might be because I was sleeping for most of the time. Late midnight when we reached back and were bidding goodbye, I gave her a small laughing Buddha as a parting gift.



The trip was special, didn’t I say that. The Buddha still is perched somewhere in her room at her home. We still have verbal fights, pulling each other’s legs and reactions equally loud. I should say, it’s rightly said, "One can love or hate someone, but can't ignore anyone."



Adios friends,


Nice Guy


Monday, May 30, 2011

Likes..!! Follows ..!! Comments..!!


It always brings a smile on my face or say more surprises, when these things pops up on my Blog or Face book status. Yes these terms should sound very common to you. But, for me its still pleasing as they did drop by...... !!!!

Yes, the people who pop up there mite be at times your colleagues or your weekend friends, or at times someone whom you have not met for long as your life moved ahead in the race to achieve your goals in life. We do remember that the name and face is similar, also you know him well but only thing is that we all lose contacts, in other words " being in touch". I see comments speaking out "Hey bro..!! whr r u? give a call..!!" or say "lets meet up someday, call me at xxxxxx" .
Frankly speaking, how many of us do respond to such comments with a call when its a long lost friend of your whom you forgot, or at times someone with whom you had a good time , some years back. Do we still catch up with old pals at the same joint where we used to hang out on those old days. Sarcastically speaking , but yes, we do lose the personal touch with our old friends as time moves on. I am not being political but yes, some day we mite choose to stay with those would serve us any purpose in some way or the other. I might be wrong on that but this happens.

So the next time we have a long lost friend commenting on our status, go out, give a call and plan to hang out for a weekend. And yes, do keep up that promise. I did realise that lately when one of my school friends was not pleased hear from me. Alas, how could I explain and what on earth was there to explain.

Nice Guy....!!!!!

Sunday, April 24, 2011

Blogging away...!!

It's been a long time since the blog account and the blogging world has made its mark around the world. But yeah, the taste of blogging did hit me long back, which could be made out from the day I have created this account. Yeah, but you would also find this as my first blog since then.

Surely, the mood to punch down lines, or quotes or phrases and create something that would be of interest of many around the world...well, I never tried for that or did give it a thought. I mean, why would any one on this earth who has a hell lot of issues to look around for him/her, take the pains to go through some stranger's or say his / her friend's blogs and give out his/her thoughts on the same. Well, if its a stranger, then it does make a sense that you get to have friends, and if they are friends, they why not say it across the face rather post it on the net.

Yeah, there is a great joy when some one sees that his/her friend has taken an effort to see what the blog says, and has shared his/her thoughts on the same. Real fun, and pleasing....Too much of the net world, makes virtual friendship a great pass time rather than a real chat or conversation. Tech world is the one to blame or appreciate too.

Well, I too am hooked to the net world but only issue was the Blogging took a great lot of time for me to start up and yes, surely a lot of my mind to punch in these lines. Surely, keeping my fingers crossed that people around will take pains to read which would help me to continue the stuff ......till then ....adios ....amigos......C u soon...!!!!

Nice Guy.. :)